We all want to be loved, and most of the time we are, but people who have been hurt love differently. Take my cousin, for example, when he likes a girl every little thing she does ticks him off. He has never been in relationships but seeing the hurt he’s gone through in life makes it clear why. Same with my other one, this time he shouts at his girlfriends! YIIIKES.
But take to heart these people are stronger. Like only a badass would shout at his girlfriend the way that this cousin does. Whether you’re the girl who’s pursuing a guy who’s been through a lot before or you’re scared of a guy who likes you a lot, here are some things you should know about this phase in your life.
There’s always like an imaginary wall surrounding them. They constantly needed to be guarded about everything–their food, their clothes, etc. Like there are limits and you can’t move around a lot. When you get too close their hearts panic and they retreat somewhere else. No trust and don’t know whether you love them or are playing them. (Hmm, just reminds me of the previous night’s movie!)
They take a lot of time to recover and lots of pent up emotions. Go do your best to assure them that you will be there for them and everything, even though you have hurt them. Because, like me, we always base it on experience. All they need is someone that they have never had before hold them (especially if in their family their life sucks) 😦
There’s always a happy ending so rejoice! 🙂 When they’re done with the past they really are. All we can do is pray and wait for the moment that it will finally come 🙂 When they give you the news pull them through and still be there to hold their hearts and stuff. In the end when you get married you’ll see it’s all worth it and they’ll definitely include you in their wedding speech. (Well, duh. Okay the situation)